5 Traditions You Don’t Need at Your Wedding
It’s your wedding day!
Or at least, it’s almost your wedding day (since you’re likely reading this as part of the planning process).
Since the “C” word swept the globe, the last few years have been a kick in the butt for everyone - whether you’re getting married or a vendor in the wedding industry. People are having smaller weddings, they’re picking the traditions they want and doing way with the ones that don’t serve them.
We’re going to discuss some of those traditions that couples are starting to throw out the window, and some that might be worth considering for your own wedding day.
Please keep in mind that this article is for the people who would like to have some non-traditional elements as part of their wedding. Many couple still choose and LOVE their big bash with all the trappings and there is nothing wrong with that!
No. 1 - The White Dress
Who says you have to walk down the aisle in a white dress (or a dress for that matter)?
There are many perks to a non-traditional wedding dress - the first and moremost being that you’ll likely get more use out of it. One of the common complaints people have with a white dress is that you only get to wear it once. But with a black, or even green / blue / pink dress, the possibilities for future wears are much better!
Everyone agreed that Ash and Cait looked amazing in their dresses and I’ve no doubt that those dresses will remain in pride of place for many years to come.
No. 2 - Who to accompany you down the aisle?
Some people walk themselves down the aisle, some decide to have their Father and Step-father, others their Mother and Father.
Putri and Eldwin walked each other down the aisle!
They started their marriage the way they wanted it to always be - together.
Their wedding was a beautiful celebration of their love of God and of each other. They had a mid-morning wedding surrounded by the love and support of their congregation and friends. Unfortunately during the height of international travel restrictions, their families were unable to be physically present - but they “zoomed” in and gave heartfelt speeches wishing these kind and generous humans many years of happiness.
So, when you’re considering if you want to walk down the aisle with a parent, step-parent, child or no-one at all - consider adding your special someone to the list.
No. 3 - Bridesmaids / Groomsmen
Casey and Ty opted to do away with Bridesmaids and Groomsmen, and shared their vows in-front of their friends and family just the two of them…. well, we be fair we can’t forget the best man/friend - Jet. Their beloved dog of many years gave them quite the health scare before the big day. But, his parents thought it was all for attention because he perked up before the big day to be able to celebrate with everyone (and get a lot of pats).
Casey and Ty loved how not having bridesmaids and groomsmen made the day easier (and cheaper!) to plan. Let hassle for everyone means more time to party!
No. 4 - A “stereotypical day”
Whoever said that you couldn’t play hooky on your wedding day? Not me! Why not escape the crowds for a little while and grab a beer together at a local distillery?
A growing trend for couples is carving out “us” time on their wedding day to spend some quiet time together to be able to actually enjoy each other’s company. It’s so easy to forget that between getting ready, the ceremony, photos, and reception and then collapsing into bed - you’ve barely had any moments together to soak up the day.
Might be worth considering stepping away from the festivites (and the photographer?) to grab a quiet moment together.
No. 5 - Personalised Vows
You’ve seen episodes of FRIENDS, Big Bang theory and plenty more on the topic - but writing your own vows can be some people’s worst nightmare. Not only can some people find putting their relationship into words a task in and of itself - especially in a way that won’t involve putting their put in their mouth- it brings in one of the most common fears of all time. Public Speaking.
If you’re someone who struggles to vocalise their feelings when they arent in front of a crowd, it’s going to be twice as difficult with all your friends and family staring at you. So, why not consider throwing away the idea of personalised vows and talking to your celebrant about standard vows? Don’t forget, it’s your day and you don’t have to re-invent the wheel here.
What do you think? Do you feel inspired to do away with some traditions that don’t serve you? Feel free to drop some comments below if there were any traditions that you opted against for your wedding (or would opt against).